ANON ASKED: I’m a 18-yo pansexual woman. My boyfriend has a low tolerancy. When I say this I mean he can only last 5-10 minutes. That’s not enough time for me to finish. This wouldn’t be so bad if he could go a second time but it takes him hours to recoup. So I’m not getting much of anything out of it. Normally my first answer would be foreplay but he’s uncomfortable going down on me and he never seems to be crazy about touching me down there unless I specifically ask for it. I have a hard time asking and not feeling selfish though. Do you have any advice on how I could possibly make this situation better? I miss enjoying sex!
If your boyfriend is not same-gender-loving, he could be asexual. Whichever is the case, it seems like you two need to amenable to opening up your relationship to a degree which you both should determine. You deserve to have great sex, but if he’s asexual, he may be incapable of meeting this need. You seem to care for him and want to remain with him. So I believe that in this circumstance non-monogamy would be your best hope.
Let us know what you decide, especially if you decide to consider non-monogamy and have additional questions about that. Good luck
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I wish real life interaction was like this
i think this is the most polite grindr conversation i’ve ever seen
but in real life, WHO THE FUCK TURNS DOWN HEAD?!
I’m not even reblogging it for the purpose of this rant.
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